10 Tips for Keeping Stress in Perspective

by Susan R Meyer

1. Set realistic goals and do not expect to be perfect.
In order to set realistic goals, you first have to create our own vision about life. Become aware of your priorities in life Take time to think about what makes you happy, what gives you joy and satisfaction in life.

2. Schedule time for yourself and keep the appointment.
Find at least 10 or 15 minutes every day to be alone with your thoughts. Insulate yourself from telephone calls, beepers, computers or other stress producing equipment and replenish yourself. Do meditation, visualization, self-massage, or relaxation exercises.

3. Free yourself from anger.
Anger is one of main sources of stress. It is a very anxiety-provoking feeling and difficult to get rid of. You think that if you forget, whatever or whoever made you angry is going to make you angry again.

4. Develop and maintain a network of caring people.
You need to feel connected with other people in life – people with whom you develop the kind of understanding that only comes from a deep sharing of experiences. This means people with whom you can break your silence about certain emotional issues in your

life, people who helps you uncover your hidden fears. These relationships help you define who you really are and more important, they give true meaning to your life.

5. Approach problems as challenges.
The following steps may help you:
Define your challenge.
Make a list of the individuals or situations associated with the situation.
Make a list of the decisions you could make to face the challenge.
Think of the resources or people that may help you face the challenge.
Develop a strategy and put it into action. Remember, do not give up until a solution is reached!

6. Interrupt the stress through time-outs.
Mini-breaks can make all the difference. Even a trip to the rest room is enough to break the stress cycle.

7. Organize yourself and learn to manage your time.
Make a regular schedule of activities you enjoy. It is good to organize yourself, but make plans for fun along the way. Decide what makes you happy and make time to do it. Do not answer the telephone during meals. Learn to say no.

8. Get rid of people or things you do not love or like.
Clutter causes chaos; chaos leads to stress.

When you cannot find things, your stress level can begin to rise. Think of all the time you lose trying to remember where you put something. Similarly, too many people in your life demanding attention creates a kind of chaos and limits the amount of quality time you can spend with those you love.

9. Look for alternate interpretations.
Don't jump to conclusions and decide everything and everyone is against you. What else could be true?

10. Do not neglect your spiritual growth.
Seek meaning and purpose in life. Create some quiet time for meditation or prayer. Experiment with soothing music. Nurture hobbies that help you express yourself and renew your spirit.

Susan R. Meyer, Ed. D., IAC-CC, is a Life Coach and consultant specializing in clearing self-imposed barriers in life and at work. Her work includes executive and personal coaching, empowerment programs and life-planning programs for women at midlife. Please visit her at http://www.life-workcoach.com for information about teleclasses (free and fee), workshops and newsletters. You can contact her at dr.susan@life-workcoach.com

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