get protected from out-coming intruders thus also restricting your area of activity. Sub-consciously, the person will develop a higher intensity of fear and anxiety in order to feel safe and sound over time. Hence, recurring anxiety will appear when they to try the most to avoid it.
o Suppress the feeling
When it comes to unbearable distressing feelings, suppressing it will only intensify the sensation. It has proven that the very act of trying to suppress a thought, only results in a higher frequency of unwanted intrusive thoughts occurring.
This reoccurrence of the thought has been termed the 'rebound effect'. Simply put: the more you try suppressing a thought, the more the unwanted thought keeps popping up (rebounding).
Instead of avoiding, suppressing or ignoring the unwanted thoughts, there are a few proven ways that you should try:
o Thinking - Decide your reaction
"It's impossible to fully control what goes through our minds, but the least we can do is control how we react to it."
What I mean is to change the way you react to those unwanted thoughts. Instead of thinking:
"Oh my god, how am I going to handle this?"
Take a little twist, you'll find a tremendous difference when you think:
"Its going to be alright, someone surely has done it before" or "It's time to take on a new challenge in my life."
The key is to be optimistic (positive thinking). There are many uncertain events happening around us everyday. We can't avoid from facing the problem but we are able to change our perspectives. This is the best way to cope with major distressing events.
o Action - Practical solution
Instead of drowning within the fearful thoughts, it is wise however to do some practical planning. Shift your mind to the solution instead of the problem.
Write down all the possible solutions that you able to think of and make it into a list like below:
(e.g.: Jobs deadline)
1. Work overnight
2. Ask for extension
3. Ask for help
4. ...
Then you'll notice that there are always