by Rick Seymour

There are four areas of limiting beliefs that many people need to deal with before they can begin to see “success” in their lives and achieve their goals. They are:
1. It is wrong to “want”.
2. There is something inherently wrong with money. Poverty and humility go hand-in-hand.
3. Unconditional love and any type of “performance expectation” are incompatible and in conflict with each other.
4. Rewarding someone proportionally to their performance is in conflict with the idea that we are to treat all people equally.
This article will deal with the third misperception that limits behavior, potential and as a consequence, success.

Misperception %233: “Unconditional love and any type of “performance expectation” are incompatible and in conflict with each other.”

Many people seem to have a real problem with being evaluated for their performance – that somehow it devalues them as people if they do not live up to other people”s expectations. Their attitude is that, “If you really loved me unconditionally, you would value me even if I don”t perform up to your expectations.” There is an inherent flaw in that logic. We can love someone unconditionally and still have expectations of them.

One thing that I have noticed over the years is that people who are performing love accountability, and people who are not performing hate accountability. And those that aren”t performing will use the “unconditional love” argument to justify to themselves and others their lack of performance.

But like it or not – all of us need accountability! If you share your goals and plans with someone else, have you noticed that you are more likely to accomplish them if you know they are going to ask about them? Have you ever exercised with a partner? Have you noticed that when someone else is around, you work just a bit harder than you would if you were by yourself?

When I was working at a big aerospace company, I ran 3-4 miles every day on my lunch hour with a friend named Mel. Rain or shine, we were out there every day at eleven o”clock. There were days when I would look out the window at 10 minutes “til eleven when it was a raging blizzard and it was 10 degrees outside. I”d say to myself, “There is no way I”m going out in that mess to run today!” About 5 minutes “til eleven I would be thinking, “That idiot Mel is going to be changed and standing in front of the building waiting for me, freezing to death. What a bummer — I guess I”d better get ready.” So I would drag myself off to change clothes and sure enough, Mel would be there. Well, guess what Mel was thinking at 10 minutes “til eleven – the same thing I was.

Accountability is a powerful force in helping us achieve our goals and dreams!

We need to expect people to perform. If they don”t live up to their potential, should I still love them unconditionally – of course! Do I have to reward them for their lack of performance – No! I”ve heard many people say “a friend issomeone that will accept you where you are.” That is true, but there is more to it than that. A true friend is someone that will accept you where you are, and encourage you to become more than you are.

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Mathematician, Aerospace Engineer, Entrepreneur, Business Owner, Management Consultant, Author, Professional Speaker and creator of multiple training curriculum – A career path that uniquely qualifies Rick to understand and relate to a wide variety of both private and public organizations and the people that make them up. He has consulted most of the Fortune 100 companies.

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