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Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: A Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion | 
 enlarge | Author: John Gray
Publisher: HarperTorch
Category: Book
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Rating:  66 reviews
Sales Rank: 24801
Media: Mass Market Paperback
Pages: 400
Number Of Items: 1
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.5
Dimensions (in): 6.7 x 4.2 x 1.2
ISBN: 0061015717
Dewey Decimal Number: 613.96
EAN: 9780061015717
ASIN: 0061015717
Publication Date: September 1, 2001
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Product Description
The author of the phenomenal # 1 New York Times bestseller Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, John Gray has helped millions of men and women achieve lasting love and happiness. Now he turns his wisdom and expertise to one of the most sensitive and essential issues in a relationship: sex. In Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, he explains how we can use advanced relationship skills to keep the fires of passion burning and achieve much greater intimacy.Romance can thrive when we accept that men and women have very different, yet complementary, emotional and physical needs. Dr. Gray shows us how we can make small but important adjustments in our attitudes, schedules, and techniques so that both partners are happy in the bedroom -- and in the relationship. From learning advanced skills for greater sex to achieving greater confidence in the bedroom, discovering the joy of quickies to rekindling the passion and keeping romance alive, John Gray has the answers for you.
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 This goes straight to the bin November 22, 2008
Avid Reader (Jersey)
In which year was John Gray born, some time in 1870???
I can't believe this book is for real. The intro is promising, but then it goes off on the premise that women are generally frigid and men are sex animals. The repetitive theme is how important sex is to men, and how women should always agree to have it. Therefore, the solution for a successful sex life in a long term relationship is that men should constantly coax women into having sex with them and women should always say yes, even if they are not in the mood. The overriding theme is stroking the male ego, as men need to have sex to feel loved. The importance sex and orgasms to women, is all but dismissed totally. In fact, Gray even presumes that orgasms are not important to women.
It seems to be a dream book for men. There are many unpalatable parts of the book - for example, women are encouraged never to refuse sex, but there is one outrageous part of the book which suggests that if the man is too tired to be in the mood for sex, the women should take responsibility of her own pleasure, start the groundwork on a solo basis and in the final two minutes, call in the man so that he can complete the job and claim the honors of giving her the orgasm. I also had to pick my jaw off the floor when I read his analysis of how to interpret a woman's sexual mood by her underwear colour. This must have been written at a time where red lace was considered scandalous and illegal, as there are only entries for black, white and pink lingerie. Be prepared for lots of idiotic passages like these.
I was hoping for a book that would spice up my sex life to prevent my husband and I from getting routine and complacent. Also, in order for us to connect deeper on a sexual level. Both of us enjoy sex, orgasms are equally important to us, and our relationship is one of mutual love, desire and respect, and therefore, this book misses the mark on all these points. Instead of being one for couples to enjoy, this book is biased towards the male needs. It takes little into account that women's attitudes to sexuality, and roles and responsibilities in the household have somewhat changed since the Victorian era. I would have expected John Gray to do a bit more research on the female psyche and come up with a more balanced approach, instead of this truly awful caveman piece of writing. What the heck, he's now laughing his way to the bank.
This book is better off in a trash can, and that's where mine's going. Don't waste your time and money!
 Cant believe a doctor actually recommened this.... May 2, 2008
RetroGurl (CA)
0 out of 1 found this review helpful
This book was actually recommended to me by my doctor! And after reading the reviews I decided I dont need a book that basically focuses EVEN MORE on the man and pretty much ignores women's needs! So, no thanks...I think I will find a book that is a little less male chauvinistic and a little more pro women's needs.
John Gray Should Not Be Giving Bedroom Advice April 28, 2008
Penelope D
1 out of 2 found this review helpful
In the words of my husband, "This guy [John Gray] has an agenda. You've got to feel bad for his wife."
After reading this book together, both my husband and I were very disappointed. My husband was really insulted that Gray made men out to be sex machines who require an orgasm in order to love and feel. I was upset that women were characterized as essentially sexless, needing our male counterparts to coax us into having intercourse. Even more annoying though, Gray devalues female orgasms almost completely, and at no time is it appropriate for a woman to decline sex. Of course women should make the attempt to pleasure their men (most will want to), but Gray has the idea that women should give it to their lovers anytime, anywhere. Seriously, I can picture Gray explaining that a woman in labor can just give her husband/boyfriend a quickie if he's feeling frisky and she's just not in the mood given that she's giving birth and all. On the other hand, according to Gray, it's hard for a man to say no to sex, so if he does, a woman should take care of things herself.
Gray's views on a loving sexual relationship were too one-sided and extreme for my husband and I. We really don't think Gray should be giving bedroom advice, nor does he seem qualified to be. (FYI: Google Gray's educational background. It's a joke. The school he received his PhD from no longer exists. Too bad I didn't realize this until we had already bought and read the book).
 Memorable Sex April 1, 2008
Rebecca Johnson (Washington State)
If you have been married for over ten years you may not find very many new ideas from this book. However, even one or two unique ideas can infuse your relationship with new passion. "Mars and Venus in the Bedroom" is perfect for newlyweds or anyone who wants an exciting refresher course in sexuality.
John Gray takes a realistic approach to sex as opposed to a romantic fantasy. He gives lots of practical ideas to enhance the sexual experience. It is helpful to know that this book has been written for couples in a committed monogamous relationship. The ideas are guaranteed to ignite or keep passion alive in a long-term relationship.
This book addresses the emotional and physical needs of both partners. I felt like I agreed with most of the book. I did seem to question one item that stood out to me as important. John Gray explains how if a woman doesn't want sex then she should be open to a quickie. On the other side of the story, if a man doesn't want sex then it is "written in stone." A section is then dedicated to ways a woman can ignite passion by what she wears to bed. There are also some ideas on how to write erotic letters although the example is from the male perspective. A letter written by a woman would have been equally as interesting.
In the section on romance John Gray states that potted plants are not romantic. Personally I prefer them to cut flowers since they last longer. So some of the advice won't always work and you have to personalize the romantic experience. Unfortunately I must say that all the potted plants my husband received from girlfriends in the past have had an untimely end.
~The Rebecca Review
Very Highly recommended for committed couples December 13, 2007
B. Fix
John Gray is such a delightful man, with such a correct
insight into the sexual and emotional makeups, and needs of both
husbands and wives. When you think. . . "he won't cover
that subject", the next thing you know, he is completely covering it.
After listening to this, I felt excited and energized when
I thought of how more meaningful my marriage, in or out of the bedroom might be. I will write another review after I share this with my husband.
I am getting another copy for my daughter and my son-in-law.
THANK YOU JOHN GRAY!!!
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