Getting ready for the big day comes with its own set of worries. Getting the right dress. Dropping weight in time for the big day. Dealing with your mother-in-law (MIL). Designing your big day may never have been more stressful than it is in the 21st century. But it doesn’t have to be that way!
One thing I’ve noticed in my experience as a health and wellness coach is the enormous tension that brides-to-be deal with around their MIL. We might really want to love our MILs but it seems sometimes that they make it impossible, and as we fight to drop stress wherever possible, they often get chopped off the block in our preparations.
You can drop one of the biggest causes of stress by investing in your relationship with your MIL. Keep wedding preparation the happy time it should be, and learn how doing this will set a positive tone for years to come.
Drop the stress by ending the fight.
Mothers-in-law have had expectations of their sons and daughters’ fiancÃ©s for ages and across cultures–but what we haven’t always been good about as women is our approach to our MIL. In our personal desires to get married, to prepare the perfect wedding, to check off all our “things,” we overlook someone who can really help us! We have accepted as a norm the idea that the mother-in-law is to be tolerated rather than honored. We feel that we have to “survive” rather than thrive in her visit.
This can set a dangerous and perhaps impossible to change direction in our marriage. Tolerating you MIL won’t only hurt your relationship with her, but can also hurt your relationship with your spouse and children down the road. Instead of fighting for control of your spouse, I am going to suggest a different fight–a fight for relationship, an authentic, thriving one.
Aim to make the right impression.
Striving for a good relationship with your fiancÃ©’s mom means making the right impression. You can impress this important lady and it doesn’t have to be false or stressful. In return, you’ll gain support and from her.
Achieving that impression is simple. Drop unnecessary wedding prep stress and check out these tips from my exclusive Bride-to-Be Blogs as you prepare for that special MIL visit and that special day!