Since we are all sinful dysfunctional people who at some time will prove ourselves to be untrustworthy, every important relationship in our life will require the rebuilding of trust at some point in time. Sometimes it may only be a slight “remodeling” while at other times it will be a complete “rebuilding” process. In some of our relationships it may seem much easier to just cut and run. We decide the relationship isn’t worth the effort of rebuilding. And this may be true in some situations, but seldom is it ever true of marriage. You might even say that one of the purposes of marriage is to teach us how to rebuild trust when it is broken.
Whether you’re a single parent as a result of divorce, death, never being married, or having a spouse that is always at work or travelling; all single parents face some common struggles. Parenting is a difficult job, even with two parents, so single parenting can be downright challenging. However, there are some ways to reduce the stress of single parenting and make the task less daunting.
Knowing the symptoms and some of the body’s reactions will help you become more realistic about your fears. In addition, you may need to take some important specific steps to subdue any fears of being out of control. When you recognize the icy fingers of fear digging into your shoulder, here are five practical strategies you can consider.
1. ASK YOURSELF, “DO I LIKE BEING STUCK?” Some people actually like being stuck. They like being the victim, they like attention, and are comfortable with “learned helplessness.” But if the answer is no, what are you willing to do about it? Are you willing to try something new and different to get unstuck?
COMMUNICATION. Be sure to have eye ball to eye ball communication on a daily basis. It is a good way to re-boot every day and discuss what your day has been like, and whatever is on your heart. Make it part of your routine to set aside time to really talk. It doesn’t have to be at the same time or same place every day, but make it a priority. Honest and meaningful communication is key to a good relationship.
Being a man in the twenty-first century isn't easy. In fact, trying to live up to a masculine ideal that may be nothing more than myth has left many men frustrated and angry. Often unable to express their emotions, these men appear buttoned-up until a seemingly minor setback unleashes a torrent of rage that can destroy personal and professional relationships. Life with a man who is angry is challenging and hard. But there are some things that you can do that can help both of you.
Recently a young mother asked me how she can learn to parent a toddler and a tweenager (preteen) without getting angry all the time. As a grandfather, I’d say that you just have to wait until you become a grandparent and then you can do it without anger.