A lot of people are fascinated with the subject of narcissism. Perhaps it’s because we all think we know one, or live with one. But is it possible, that you’re the narcissist? If you are wondering, there are some things you can look at to determine whether or not you have narcissistic tendencies.
The first one is that you’re really not interested in a story unless it is relates to you. Because you are your world. The most important thing to you is telling your story the way you want to tell it. You’re not really interested in anyone else and what they have to say.
Another thing to look at is whether you boast without being prompted. The narcissistic tendency is that you are harboring a grandiose or exaggerated sense of your self-importance. You feel so important that you lie about yourself, even when it would be easier on you if you didn’t.
I was at Hollywood party one time, because the ad agency I was working with was in Hollywood. The man who gave the party told me that he wrote a particular movie that was coming out. I don’t know why in the world he said that because I saw the movie and his name was nowhere to be found. Later when I told him that I didn’t see his name in the credits, he said that he’d have to check on it. Well, obviously, he was being grandiose, because leaving out the screenwriter’s name, just doesn’t happen. If you find yourself boasting and saying things that you can’t live up to, that’s a good sign that you have narcissistic tendencies.
Are you preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, and brilliance? Are you always waiting for your boat to come in? I knew a man who claimed to be very wealthy. But later I learned that he was actually living with his mother and his mother made the payments on the car he was driving. He also showed me a phone that had live streaming video. He told me it was the future, and he was the only one who had that technology. When in reality, that technology was readily available. He was very grandiose, when he really didn’t need to be. When you have plans or daydreams that are bigger than you could ever achieve, that is a narcissistic tendency.
Do you think that you are better than others? The narcissistic tendency is to see oneself as special and privileged and only associate with others you see as your equal. I worked with a man whose father went off to war and was taken prisoner of war while his mother was pregnant with him. According to him, his mother said that she was not going to have her baby until the father came home. At the end of 30 days, his father was released from a prisoner of war camp, returned to America, and she had the baby.
He saw that as being marked as someone special. He saw himself above and beyond everyone else because of his mother’s story. It was almost like the virgin birth. He was birthed a month late, so God must have really had something special in mind for him. So if you believe that you are above others, that is a real sign of narcissism.
Do you fish regularly for compliments? Do you require or demand excessive praise or admiration from others? A true sign of being a narcissist is that you are always looking for some way to bring up a subject that might bring you a compliment.
Do you expect special treatment? The narcissistic tendency is a sense of entitlement and a belief that you’re deserving of special treatment. There are a lot of people who have been extremely embarrassed being thrown out of first class. They couldn’t afford to pay for it, but they tried to sit there anyway because they