1. ASK YOURSELF, “DO I LIKE BEING STUCK?” Some people actually like being stuck. They like being the victim, they like attention, and are comfortable with “learned helplessness.” But if the answer is no, what are you willing to do about it? Are you willing to try something new and different to get unstuck?
2. FIGURE OUT WHEN YOU FIRST STARTED FEELING STUCK. Looking back on your life and recalling life events may help you gain insight as to what got you where you are now. Some honest and in-depth reflection may assist you in knowing what to do so that you can begin to move forward again.
3. ASK YOURSELF, “WHO HAVE I DISCONNECTED WITH?” Disconnection with others is often times a big part of the problem. Perhaps you’ve had an argument with a friend or family member and are now disconnected. You need to look at forgiving or seeking forgiveness and possible reconciliation.
4. LOOK FOR TRIGGERS. Review your past and look for major life events, challenges or disappointments that may have triggered the condition. Identifying and gaining understanding of how certain events have impacted you may help you see how you need to heal and move forward again. Maybe there is something in your life that you haven’t fully grieved.
5. EXAMINE YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE. Have you been consistent in your walk with the Lord? Are you fellowshipping with other believers? Are you spending consistent time in the Word and in prayer? Research shows that if you read the Bible 4 days of the week, it will impact your life. When you spend time in the Word and in prayer you can start to look at things from God’s perspective and seek His wisdom and guidance. Spending time with other believers can be a great source of comfort.
6. LOOK AT WHAT GOALS YOU HAVE SET FOR YOURSELF. If you haven’t made any goals, then set some and regularly monitor your progress. Make your goals realistic and achievable. Don’t set goals that are out of your control and depend on other people. Only set goals that you have the ability to make happen yourself, and take small doable steps toward those goals.
7. LOOK HONESTLY AT YOUR OBSTACLES. Take a look at your obstacles and break them down so that they are manageable. Perhaps you have huge debt that seems impossible to overcome. Start with one credit card at a time and pay it off and then work on another, and keep going. Maybe you need to start exercising. Start with something easy like walking for just a short time each day and then progressively increase your time.
8. EXAMINE THE MESSAGES THAT YOU TELL YOURSELF. Are they negative and critical? Replace them with Christ-centered messages. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13) “The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me?” (Psalm 118:6) Don’t dwell on past failures. Learn the lessons you can from them and move on. Consider what Apostle Paul tells us in Philippians 3:13-14, “Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself to as yet taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting was it behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which