Tips for Preparing A Child For A New Baby Brother or Sister

Tips for Preparing A Child For A New Baby Brother or Sister

Expecting a baby is a very exciting time.  If you have an older child you may have a sense of worry or unexpected panic on how to balance life with a new baby and an older child. With your first baby you got to bring them home and have the soul focus be on them.  Well this time around it isn’t just your baby and you against the world. You now have your older child plus the baby. This can be difficult for both you and your older child. So it is a good idea to help prepare your older child for the baby so that it helps the transition when you all are home together. 

Depending on how big the age difference is between your two children can determine how much you need to do to prepare them for the upcoming baby.  Make sure you tell your older child in language that they understand. That Mommy is having a baby and it is growing in her belly. Show them how your belly is growing, let them talk to your belly saying that your baby sister or brother in there is excited to meet them.  This allows them to have as much time as possible to absorb the information and get used to what is happening. There are kid books you can by for your older child such as, I am a Big Brother by Caroline Jay Church or Big Sisters are the Best by Fran Manushkin. You can get these for your child to help them see what being a big brother or big sister is all about.  Another thing to do is to let them know what things they will be able to help with the baby or if they are too tiny to help you can make a list of big boy or big girl things that they can take new ownership of when the baby comes. Such as picking up their dishes and putting them by the sink after supper, or taking their dirty laundry to the hamper at the end of the day.  

If your child is a bit older and can understand more there is more you can include them in.  After you tell them about the future baby you can have them help you think of names, or decorating ideas for the nursery.  Picking out a few optio