Great Leaders, Great Coaches and Great Parents pay attention to the small things, the small dialogues that you have with yourself, your fellow employees and your teammates.
They know a that these small conversations, small acts of kindness, small recognition of efforts, small investments of extra effort, small questions for clarifications, small questions for seeking to understand.
The little things that make a big difference is what we are all trying to train ourselves to do more of. . . I call it how you do anything is how you do everything.
Complain about the small things you will complain about the big things.
Competitive at family Ping Pong game you will be competitive in business.
Beat yourself incessantly for a mistake and you will probably do this to your employees.
How you do anything is how you do everything which is why it’s really important to pay attention to the small things you do every day.
Here are some basic rules I try to keep myself from slipping into bad habits.
- Greet Others Well:
How we show up everyday from the cashier at the super market, the gym attendant or a our Starbucks barista. Making a good habit out of greeting, engaging and listening to others. It is a habit we can fall in and out of.
- Watch Your Self Talk:
How we talk ourselves can be the most important conversation we have to ourselves. . . The champion athletes I study have moments of aggregation but rarely do they turn into tirades that spin them out of control yet how many of us do this ourselves at work or with our spouse.
- Compliment Often:
We all starve for affirmation the more we can spend time building others around you by finding genuine recognition of their gifts the more you will be able to have the emotional coin the bank to be honest with constructive feedback. Even humor in the absence of any building can be taken the wrong way.
- Listen with Your Body:
When I listen to others I am as intently watching their body language as I am hearing their words. . . I am trying to feel what they are saying so that if the words get into the way I can still understand them. . . This is an acquired skill but it has served me well. . . It really is learning how to listen with your whole body. Your ears, your eyes and feeling what people are trying to say.
Paying attention to how you do the small things really makes the big things better. Because how you do anything is how your do everything