If you go into relationships not knowing what you want, you’re inviting anything into your life. You let the days pass and see what happens and adjust to it. You get comfortable. Here are four reasons why relationship goals are important.
1. You need to know if you’re heading in the same direction
If you don’t discuss your intention for being in a relationship, you and your partner may be headed in opposite directions. If you date for a year and a half and then realize one of you wants to be married and the other has no desire to ever get married, you’re not suited for each other. You can’t change someone else nor should you change in order to continue being with them. If someone does something that’s against their desires, they will ultimately feel resentful and unhappy.
2. Your relationship won’t go stale
If you don’t have any goals as a couple, your relationship might get stale and boring. Goals don’t have to big huge items like moving to a new city, buying a house, or having a baby, but they might be. Maybe you want to run a race together in the next few months. Or travel to one new country every year. It’s important to have things you want to experience and achieve as a couple as well as individually.
3. Your communication will improve
Talking about your goals as a couple will help your communication. If you never discuss the things you want, both individually and as a couple, you might not know each other as well as you think you do. Without communication there may be many assumptions made. If you and your partner have always gone hiking on weekends, ask if they are enjoying themselves or if there is something else they would rather be doing with your time together.
4. You will be a happier partner
When you know where you stand and where you are headed with your partner, you will be happier. If you are afraid to discuss important things and what you need from your partner and relationship, it will be more difficult to be happy. People can’t read your mind. If you go along with everything they want to do, they might take this as a sign you’re happy doing so.