I’ve been hearing more than ever from my clients that there doesn’t seem to ever be enough time to get it all done! I am writing on this “rushed bride” topic today because I know we can all relate to this feeling and we need reminders and idea’s about how to juggle it all and still have time for workouts and planning & preparing healthy foods! The truth is that I’ve been struggling with this as well. I’m finding myself doing what I know is not healthy like, having negative conversation in my head about how I’m not fitting in my workouts, I’m eating too many carbs and I’m just falling short of “keeping up.”
Brides are pulled in a lot of directions; work, pressure to please family and friends with wedding planning decisions, getting in the best shape of your life, spending time with your fiancÃ© and maintaining relationships with your friends. Usually we run around taking care of the “to do” list and everybody else’s demands and “cut back” on the time for our needs and desires. It’s not easy but finding some sort of balance can ease stress and free up time and energy to put towards your priorities.
How do you identify what your priorities are when everything seems urgent and important? I heard a lecture from a very wise woman many years ago that answered that question! She talked about how there are many important and meaningful things to do that keep our schedules busy but we don’t have to do them all or any if they distract or take you away from your priorities. This is the question to ask in order to identify if it is a priority; can someone else do this? If the answer is no then it’s a priority. This seems pretty simple, and it is, but it can be hard for overachievers, people pleasers and control freaks! Let me give you some examples of PRIORITIES so you get the point:
- Spending time with your fiancÃ©. You are the only partner for him and therefore the only one that can fill this role. This is something only you can do in order to get the benefits.
- Maintaining relationships with family & friends. You can’t substitute yourself, you need to be present in all your personal relationships.
Here are some examples of healthy, fun and good things that are NOT a Priority:
- Organizing a charity event. Being involved in worthy causes is no doubt valuable and honorable. Giving our time will enrich our lives and health; however, there are seasons in your life. We can have it all, just not at the same time. During this time of planning your wedding may not be the right time to spread yourself too thin.
- Participating in multiple clubs. Being in a tennis group or club is of course a healthy activity for an example, but you don’t need to say yes every time you’re asked to sub if it takes you away too time from spending with your partner.
- Social media. This is the biggest time sucker, limiting your time and energy on these platforms is crucial. Keeping up with your newsfeed is not a priority! Someone else can definitely do that! If you find that you are missing workout opportunities and meaningful conversations, go on a social media detox!
There are enough priorities to keep us busy and time may still be “too little” even when shaving off the non-priorities. Knowing when to delegate or dump it is another way to ensure our time isn’t spent in area’s that aren’t giving any return value. You don’t need to do everything; ask for help or hire assistance and free up your most valuable commodity. Eating nutritious, delicious and quality sourced food is a priority to get & keep a Bride Fit body & mind. There are sources like Thrive Market, US Wellness Meats and companies that make whole real delicious food and deliver to your door. So eating amazing is a priority but you don’t always need to be the one to prepare it.
What is the most helpful tip you got from this blog? Leave your thoughts and comments below. My intention is always to give you something that you can apply today that will support you health & happiness. Join my program, 12 Weeks to a Fit Bride today and learn how to get ‘wedding dress ready’ and live ‘happily & healthily ever after.’