A Powerful Strategy for Dealing with Tough People

Matthew 5:44 says to, “Love your enemies, and pray for those who persecute you.”

Well I once heard it said that if it weren’t for having to deal with people- business could be a lot of fun.

Well think about it- anytime that we’re dealing with people, the potential for conflict is there-whether at home or at work.  You see unresolved conflicts with fellow workers, supervisors, and customers can be very harmful to our business success.

Well I want to share with you a powerful and “secret” weapon that you have at your disposal in terms of helping you resolve conflict at work.

You see not too long ago, someone got to me.   It kind of got me mad and I was angry- really angry.  And in all honesty, I let them know it too.  Now I think I was correct in communicating my feelings with this person, and I think I actually did so in an appropriate manner.  I didn’t lose my cool or say things that I later regretted.


But here is where I failed– I didn’t pray for that person- and that was wrong.


Scripture clearly teaches us to love and pray for those who “do us wrong.”   I “missed the mark” on this one.

Well here is an incredible truth- God has wired our brains so that we can’t hold two opposing thoughts about someone at the exact same time.  In other words, we can’t be thinking bad or negative things about them at the exact same time that we are praying for them.

So prayer is a powerful way to help you resolve conflict.

Well how about you?  Is there someone in your life right now that you are angry or upset with?  Maybe a supervisor, co-worker, a family member?

So stop right now- pray for them.   Ask God to bless them, and to help them in all areas of their life.  You will be amazed at the sense of peace and comfort that overcome over you- as you pray for them.


When you do this- you will be applying the [email protected].


Application Questions:

  1. What does this message say to you?
  2. Do you pray for those who upset you?   Can you see how this would be beneficial?
  3. What circumstances do you having going on now that you need to be praying over before approaching the subject with someone?



Ray is the Co-Founder of Truth At Work. Prior to this role, he served as CEO until January 2016. In his role of Co-Founder, Ray is responsible for building high level strategic relationships on behalf of Truth At Work, facilitates several Round Table Groups, helps establish new markets, develops new curriculum, as well as serving as host of Truth At Work’s “Bottom Line Faith” podcast series. Additionally, Ray is in the process of writing two new books that will be released in the coming months. Ray is also a highly sought after speaker at churches and retreats across America, where for years he has challenged followers of Christ to integrate their faith in and through the marketplace on a daily basis. He is also part of the speaking faculty for Orlando, Florida based “Man In the Mirror” ministry where he conducts seminars and retreats across the country.

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