“Don’t Say It” – Article

Proverbs 21:23 says that, “He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity.”

The definition of a calamity is something that is a disaster or a great misfortune.

I remember a situation one time where I failed to control my words, and the results were not good at all.

There was someone at work who had really upset me.   They had done something that offended me, and I knew I just had to tell them exactly how I felt.  So I really let them have it.   I really laid in to them and I really told them off-sparing no details and holding nothing back.

And although I felt better at the time- that feeling did not last.  You see very soon after that, a great sense of remorse and regret came over me.   I realized that I had over-reacted.

But you see it was too late- the damage had been done.   I had hurt this person in ways I could not repair, and frankly I had made a fool of myself.

But what about you?

Is there a situation that you are dealing with right now where you are really wanting to “give someone a piece of your mind?”

Perhaps you are at the end of your rope with a co-worker, supervisor, or someone who reports to you.

Maybe you are ready to once and for all tell them exactly how you feel- and you are ready to unload on them.

Let me encourage you don’t do it.

Remember, that if you will guard your tongue, you will keep yourself (and others as well) from calamity.

So by restraining your words, you’re going to prevent something terrible from happening, and very likely you’re going to maintain your own integrity and dignity.  Find a more productive way to address the issue.   Hold a calm and reasonable conversation with that person-share your concerns-but control your tongue.

If you will do this, you will be applying The [email protected].


Application Questions:

  • 1What does this message say to you?
  • 2Is there anyone you want to (or recently have) given a “piece of your mind”? What was the situation & what is an alternative way to handle it?
  • 3What scriptures can help you guard your tongue?

Ray is the Co-Founder of Truth At Work. Prior to this role, he served as CEO until January 2016. In his role of Co-Founder, Ray is responsible for building high level strategic relationships on behalf of Truth At Work, facilitates several Round Table Groups, helps establish new markets, develops new curriculum, as well as serving as host of Truth At Work’s “Bottom Line Faith” podcast series. Additionally, Ray is in the process of writing two new books that will be released in the coming months. Ray is also a highly sought after speaker at churches and retreats across America, where for years he has challenged followers of Christ to integrate their faith in and through the marketplace on a daily basis. He is also part of the speaking faculty for Orlando, Florida based “Man In the Mirror” ministry where he conducts seminars and retreats across the country.

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