I think it’s important to discuss what to do when you get stressed, experience fear or just get mad. None of us are impervious to these emotions, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to control them better.

I get a bit nervous when I speak. I’ve also had my fair share of stress and anger, but I work daily to get these things under control as quickly as possible.

Anger is probably one of the most negative emotions of all because it holds so many people captive. I’ve found that when you’re dealing with negative people, their whole goal is to suck you into their world of bitterness. We all know that “misery loves company,” so do your best to not accept the invitation.

There’s a scripture in James 1:19 that says, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.”

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve repeated that in my head when confronted with an opportunity to get mad or react negatively to a situation. The reaction is what typically gets us “engaged” in an argument or dispute, but if we practice what that scripture says we can avoid conflict:


  • Be quick to listen: This helps you from impulsively jumping to conclusions. If you listen before speaking, you’ll have a better chance at understanding what the other person is trying to tell you.
  • Be slow to speak: How many times have you said something that you wish you could take back as soon as you heard the words coming out of your mouth? Yeah, me too! When confronted, it’s so important that we don’t puke out the first thing that enters our mind. After you listen, take a moment to process the information and say something you won’t regret later.
  • Be slow to become angry: If you listen first, and say something thoughtful, it’s much easier not to get angry. You won’t contribute to escalating the situation, and you’ll often help calm the other person down. Worst case scenario, you’ll see how silly or unnecessary the situation is and find a way to exit politely and gracefully.


You will ALWAYS end up in a better place if you refuse to let others “engage” you in a negative situation!

Another great tool you can use when you experience a negative emotion, like